Monday, 23 January 2012

GUEST BLOG: PERSONAL TRAINER NICK RYDEN

Trust me ladies, Nick Ryden is the man to whip you into shape for the big day.


I enlisted his help just two weeks ago when I started an hour session three times a week at the famous Matt Roberts (www.mattroberts.co.uk) gym where Nick is senior personal trainer.
Nicklas Ryden
Already, I see the benefits on my body and have lost a couple of kilos as well as a centimetre round my waist. I feel myself toning up and most importantly, feel better.


We're all used to seeing articles on how to shape up but this Q&A is pretty special - because, should you choose to follow it, it will work.
Matt Roberts
They say blogs with too much text can turn readers off - but I hope you'll agree it's worth the wordage if it's the best advice out there.
Thank you for your questions. Over to you Nick.



Q. I've only got three months to my wedding. Have I left it too late to
make a difference? Realistically, what can I achieve? I want to lose half
a stone at least and go down a dress size. (Tanya, 31, Bournemouth)

A. It usually takes at least 5-7 days in my experience to notice a shift in tone and weight loss so there is plenty of time in order to get in shape for the wedding.




Now depending on how much effort you put in to training,
nutrition, quality sleep, hydration the results can vary from ok to very
good. Half a stone weight loss and losing a dress size is very doable in
that time frame.



Q. My problem areas are tummy and thighs. I don't want to bulk up, just
lose the flab. What exercises can I do? (Jen, 28, Brighton)


After

A. In general it is very difficult for anyone to bulk up. For women in
particular since they are low in testosterone (which is the main anabolic
hormone responsible for increasing muscle mass) so should not worry about
bulking up. 

The best exercises for tummy and thighs are squats, lunges, step-ups,
glute bridges, planks (front and side variations).

Protein in peanuts 



Q. If I exercise regularly, can I get away with eating more (or at least
the same as I normally do) without putting on weight? (Anne, 34, Glasgow)



A. Yes you can eat the same and possibly a little more without putting on
weight.
Combining resistance and cardio training is the best way to get in shape
as the resistance training will increase lean body mass thereby increasing
metabolism so you will burn more calories on a daily bases which means you
can eat the same and still lose weight.
Snack on tuna





Of course if you then try to eat 200-300 calories less each day in conjunction with the training 
that will be the best option.


In general excess protein won't be converted to fat as a lot of the calories will get burned off in the process, but extra carbohydrates get converted easier so the
recommendation is that if you are hungry try to snack on protein rich
foods such as yoghurts (natural, not flavored), tuna (in spring water), a
spoon of peanut butter or a handful of nuts.


Bingo wings + tats = wrong


Q. My dress is strapless and I have slightly soft upper arms. What can I
do to tone up for my wedding in six months time? (Susan, 36, Sidcup, Kent)





A. The best arm exercises in my opinion are press-ups, close grip press-ups,
trx inverted rows, barbell biceps curl, and triceps dumbbell extensions.


Flying without (bingo) wings





Q. What's the benefit of a personal trainer as opposed to going to the
gym?












A. A personal trainer can make all the difference when it comes to getting in
shape in a short period of time.
Your trainer will be able to push you harder than you would yourself in the gym, and he/she will be able to progress you when needed and scale it down the days when you are not 100% in form so that you prevent getting injured by over training or performing exercises with poor form.
Booze Culture
It is a fact most people don't push themselves as hard when they train by alone than with a trainer.






Q. I am happy with my weight but don't feel very healthy (long hours,
drinking culture at work) How can exercise help? (Paul, 27, not-a-bride-to-be, London)






A. Exercise will make you feel energetic even though you physically exert yourself during a session mentally you will feel refreshed and clear headed afterwords.

Also once you get into the habit of training regularly
you will notice that will start to eat healthier, drink less and sleep
better. It is a win win in my opinion.


Matt Roberts in action

Q. I jog for half an hour every day on the treadmill at the same speed
going quite fast and watch what I eat but never lose weight. What cardio
would work? (Ali, 45, Fife)



A. It is very common that people are stuck in an exercise routine that they have been doing for years.


So after a while once the body has adapted to the stress of the exercise the body stops adapting and you are staying in maintenance stage.








My recommendation is to get out of your comfort zone and try something new like a spin class, body combat or try interval training.

Challenge your body by working hard in 30 seconds with 1 min
rest.
Repeat that four times. This can be performed on the spin bike,
x-trainer, rower, and treadmill.





Q. I feel too scrawny and thin and want to put on a bit of muscle, especially on my arms which are boney. My big day's in six months. Is this possible? (Emma, 31, 
Manchester)






A. Yes with six months you can make a big change in how you look and feel. Of
course in addition to training; nutrition, hydration (plenty of water),
sleep, and a positive mental attitude will help you reach your goals much
sooner.





Q. What are your favourite success stories with clients?




A. My favorite stories are with 2 of my fat loss clients.
A women I trained lost 20kg in about 4 months just from stopping drinking and training very seriously, about 5 sessions week including 3 with me.



And a man I trained last year lost 4.5 stone in 4 months which was amazing as it changed both his body and mindset.





Q. Any other tips for food and exercise?






A. With food don't follow any crazy diets, because in the end you will put
that weight back on again.

Try to eat healthy proper food like meat, fish, vegetables, rice, some fruit, and nuts.


If you want to be serious about hitting your goals cut out all baked goods like cakes, biscuits, crisps and so on.

Only wedding cake allowed
Limiting bread and fruit intake seems to help as well.

Have a limit of two fruits a day if you want to lose fat. 

If you are happy with your weight then you can have your five a day.



With exercise make sure you know what you are doing as far as technique is concerned. 

If you are not sure seek a trainer who can help you with the basics and
set up a program for you.
You want to mix your resistance training with cardio training and preferably also some stretching routines or a yoga class.






A Swedish eye for grammar
Thanks Nick. Not only is your advice first class, it's hard to believe your native tongue is Swedish as your English is better than many a Brit.



For more information about the London-based training centres go to www.mattroberts.co.uk


And to read more about Nick's background - which spans slalom, football, athletics and martial arts..in Sweden, America, Australia and London click here.

Saturday, 14 January 2012

COMING UP..

Guest bloggers who will be joining aisle-be-there.co.uk very soon are fabulous, even if I do say so myself.


Matt Roberts
  • Personal trainer Nick who works at Matt Roberts (www.mattroberts.co.uk)..Matt's never off the telly and only employs the best. 
Trust me, after a few sessions with Nick I know he's the man to whip you into shape for the big day.



    Top hairstylist Charley McEwen

  • Hairdresser to the stars Charley McEwen who styled Kelly Rowland's hair on the X Factor will be sharing invaluable tips on how get it right on the day. Take a look at his website charleymcewen.com to see his impressive client list.

Lace - there's a clue



  • My dress designer. Yes I've finally chosen one and I can't wait to share.


  • One of the finest make-up artists working on television shows today. She doesn't often do bridal make-up but has agreed to share the benefit of her experience with us.


If you have a question for any of the above experts, let me know and I'll make sure it gets to them.
There's so much to think about in the run-up so hopefully this site will become your one-stop-shop with lots of answers.


Wednesday, 11 January 2012

GUEST BLOG: WEATHER EXPERT, SIAN WELBY


You see. Gorgeous.
I'm delighted to introduce Channel 5's gorgeous weather girl Sian Welby to aisle-be-there-co.uk
That's Sian on the right.
Here, she shares her advice on all things weather and wedding, offers a personalised forecast and my favourite - invaluable advice on umbrellas.
Over to you Sian.

Right ladies, you can plan every last detail of your wedding, down to the colour of your Bridesmaid's knickers, but the one thing that is out of your hands is the weather.

The weather is a key part of your wedding day and something you need to think about.  I can't give you an exact weather forecast for the time, date and year of your big day.

If I could I'd be a millionaire, but I can try and give you some tips!!

Firstly, take any forecast more than five days ahead with a pinch of salt.  It may give you an inkling as to what might happen, but might is the key word here and the best detail is always in a two-three day forecast.

Secondly, expect the unexpected. If you got married in December 2010 you'd have had a winter wonderland, but as you know, if you got married December last year, it was probably warm enough to stay out all night without a coat. 

Sian doing her thing
So don't presume that you'll get rained on in April or that you'll get baking sunshine in July as you might get an unwanted surprise.

Remember, it's Great Britain we're talking about so if anything plan for rain. Don't let the weather ruin your day. Give yourself options. 

THINK HAIR! You don't want your lovely updo becoming a soggy mess, so if rain is looking inevitable, happy thoughts are useless at this point and you need to be practical.

Make sure you have a few umbrellas ready.  If you want to make a feature of your umbrella you could get it customised, 'Mr and Mrs' or colour matching your theme. Make it fun so you can look back and laugh, instead of cry.


Top tip, get a clear umbrella that covers your whole head and shields you from the wind, so you can see where your going, stay looking pristine and avoid the inside-out-umbrella-look.

Long range weather forecasts aren't very reliable, because all it takes is for the wind to change slightly and it's snow instead of sunshine.

However it can be just as important to look back at weather.  If you're an outdoorsey couple getting married in a field with a marquee, it may be glorious sunshine on your big day, but in the run up it could have been raining non stop, meaning cars will be stuck in the mud if they park on the field and heels will be sinking into the grass.

To avoid a mud related rescue mission for your Maid of honour, get your route to the venue planned, even if it means putting cardboard or wooden planks down on the grass so people can walk in easily, or if you really want a laugh and have the budget you could even get your bridal party matching rain macs or pink wellies. A great idea if it's a intimate wedding!

If you plan for the worst, nothing will spoil your day and remember girls, I'm here to help, Monday to Friday 3 times a day on channel 5 giving you your weekly forecast. My Facebook and Twitter links are below and  I'll be happy to give you a personal weather report for your area and if you want a funny personalised report doing for your big day, I'm sure something can be arranged.

GOOD LUCK GIRLS!




Many thanks Sian. I owe you one of those Del Boy cocktails with an umbrella in it.
Martel x

Tuesday, 10 January 2012

GUEST POST: THE DIAMOND EXPERT


Welcome to aisle-be-there.co.uk diamond expert Vashi Nanwani Dominguez.

My fiance admitted the other day he knew nothing about diamonds, gems or engagement rings before he proposed, so the experience of getting one was rather daunting.
Getting started can be downright intimidating, so I thought it would be helpful to get some pointers, especially with Valentine's round the corner. Hint, hint.

Cue Vashi, this handsome chap on the right who is founder and MD of www.diamondmanufacturers.co.uk , to the rescue.
Folks,this is not an ad - it's a guest blog from the first of many leading authorities. You can expect to hear from a superb make-up artist, photographer and even someone versed in all things erotic soon.
Over to you Vashi.



Diamonds are forever, though Christina Aguilera's marriage was not
Q. How much do men spend on engagement rings?
A. The average has gone down from £2,000 to £1,500 nationwide, but not in our site. Our average order value on engagement rings has gone up from £1,000 in 2008 to £1,800 in 2011.

Q. So blokes don't have to spend two months salary? That's something that's bandied about.
A.  That's a message consumers should stir away from. I think this is one of those intrinsic messages developed to stimulate incremental sales.

Q. What's the most common style(s) requested.
A. Four prong solitaire settings, both in classic and modern styles.


Q. What should we know to get the best-looking result? Bamboozle us with talk of size and clarity and cuts.
A. It really comes down to personal taste and budget. From an expert’s perspective, I recommend a diamond with the maximum brilliance and sparkle possible. This is achieved by choosing a diamond with an ideal cut and wide transparency.
The transparency of a diamond is one of the most important aspects affecting the diamond’s brilliance.
This characteristic is not included in diamond certificates, so it’s essential to view the diamond in person.
We only select diamonds with wide transparency and to achieve this, we reject over 90% of the diamonds that we assort.

A two carat ring
Q. When is your busiest time?
A. Christmas, as there is a large number of Christmas and New Year proposals, followed by Valentine’s. Summer is a key season too with a good number of people looking to propose abroad. Holiday proposals are becoming more popular.

Q. What kind of diamond ring makes for a timeless piece - that in thirty years will not have gone out of fashion?
A. The classic four and six prong solitaire styles, which have been in the market for over 50 years and remain as some of the most popular settings today.
These settings allow slight band changes to create a more modern look while retaining the timelessness of the classic piece.
Understated as ever..Mariah Carey

Q. Do you sell other stones as well as diamonds?
A. We also sell precious gemstones (rubies, sapphires and emeralds) and pearls, but only mixed with diamonds in the piece.

Q. What else can he get (other than a ring) to show he cares for Valentines or a birthday?
A. Stud earrings and solitaire pendants are the most popular gifts that show appreciation. A big stone is generally perceived better than a number of small stones.

Q. How did you get into this?
A. Since I was a little boy I’ve been fascinated with diamonds. I remember going with my father to see one of his friends who owned jewellery stores, looking at the diamonds he had in pouches and the immense value they had.
Diamonds are unlike any other product as no two diamonds are alike even if they have all the same specifications, and this is what in my opinion makes diamonds the most fascinating business one can be in.
It gets better than that though, as when mounted in rings they represent the gift chosen for life’s most special occasions like engagement proposals, weddings and anniversaries.
It’s a dream come true to be in such a privilege position that allows us to be part of our customers’ lives.

Q. Where do you get your diamonds?
A. Antwerp, Mumbai and New York.

Q. What happens if she's not happy with what he's chosen - can it be changed?
A. It can be changed or refunded for any reason whatsoever, customers don’t have to tell us the reason although we appreciate it if they do so that we can continue learning as a business.

Q. Would you advise men not to choose by themselves - and perhaps instead consult with a friend of his partner..or even ask her to choose after he's proposed?
A. I think it depends on the recipient, although the surprise element plays a magical part in the experience.

Q. Does size matter?
A. Yes, but less every time. As customers are becoming more savvy they tend to compromise a bit more on size in order to get a better quality diamond.
In diamonds your budget will allow you to improve the quality more than increase the size, as diamond prices rise exponentially when their weight increases into the next carat weight range.

Thank you Vashi.

Ladies or gents, the website is good not least because it allows you to play around and create your own bling. www.diamondmanufacturers.co.uk

Wednesday, 4 January 2012

How Long Should An Engagement Be?

I'M sipping a latte waiting to go on Fred MacAulay's BBC Radio Scotland show to discuss the ideal length of engagement.
I hope you don't mind me running a few thoughts past you in preparation.
A year to 18 months I'd say is a perfect time from proposal to big day, while anything less than six months is folly. The average period has fallen from 18 to 15 months.
You need time to prepare for your wedding; also to enjoy being a fiancee.
Seriously, milk it. People treat you like royalty.
It was December 2010. Jamie had got down on bended knee the night before and we decided to celebrate with an impromptu visit to Scott's restaurant in Mayfair.
The door man was polite but couldn't help laugh when I said we hadn't booked. "It's the last Friday before Christmas - one of the busiest days of the year. I don't fancy your chances."
"But I just got engaged," I proffered with best Bambi eyes.
Bang. He was a romantic Irishman with a twinkle in his eye. "On you go, tell the man on the desk, see what he says."
A flash of the rock later and we were seated at the bar, drinking a silver tankard of Black Velvet  and went on to have a magical time.
On this note, if you venture to Scott's I'd recommend a stool at the bar which is the centrepiece of the room if you like informality - a later pre-booked visit seated at a table wasn't nearly as much fun.
If only I'd known the power of "please let me in, I just got engaged" I'd have used it ad nauseam when I was showbiz reporter, at all those parties at which I was persona non grata.
Being engaged for under six months is also also advised against by wedding planners, unless your organising is minimal.
As for being engaged too long, what's the point?
Unless there's a stellar reason - saving up for the average wedding cost alone is estimated to set you back £20,248 in 2012 - anything over three years is ominous.
Young couples may not be in a rush but hurray for romance and him saying you're the only woman for him; that he can't wait to be your husband. If he was sure enough to propose, why wait around?
Actually, this brings me to one male pal who got engaged "to buy time" and "get her off my back."
Three years later, she tired of asking for a date and left for his older cousin who was far more amenable to settling down.
If you don't set a date int he first year of engagement - perhaps six months even - I reckon the chances are far higher you'll never make it down the aisle. 
I give you welsh beauty Katherine Jenkins who last week split with her presenter fiance Gethin Jones. Or Girls Aloud's Sarah Harding who ended her engagement to DJ Tom Crane last year.
Both couples were betrothed but there was no ink in the diary.
A possible cause could be that after initial celebrations many couples report increased bickering.
This could be the manifestation of fear and realisation this is for life; or arguing over wedding plans.
If no date is set, the doubt may increase that either or both of you actually want to go ahead.
Relationship experts advise sharing thoughts with your other half, for engagement could mean very different things to each party.
They say women envisage their wedding dress if the first date goes well. Clearly a sweeping statement given I still have trouble picturing the day.
But it's logical to think about the future - being a bride, having a family, growing old together - when he proposes. Conversely, he might be broody as hell but you can't stand the thought of having children.
I've had a few discussions and concessions to make myself. We both have. But I'll save that for another time.